I think relationship per se in Bhutan is a new concept, which probably made its way to Bhutan by late nineties with westernisation creeping in. When I say relationship, it is not that of mother-son, father-son, sister-brother or anything for that matter, by relationship I mean the relationship of a man and women who falls into so-called “love”, who wishes to get married and live their life together for rest of their times. Our society, which I quote in quote “primitive” only, knew about marriage and never came up with the idea of a relationship before marriage. People in our society in olden days were all subject to arranged married. For instance, the brides parent in “singay-gyalem” (one of the classic love story of Bhutan), did not accepted their love consequently resulting in the death of lovers which proofs the very fact that there did not exists the concept of love; parents were the sole person who would choose your spouse. Such traditional customs has its own pros and cons but then today I am here to talk about the new concept i.e. “love”.
Only if every relationship was given the title of marriage then there won't be any fake promises and so called ‘break-up’ shall decrease dramatically. The reasons for people getting involved into such relationships are solely of the fact that they are in love and have decided to live together. During the course of their relationship, they tend to make promises, vow to hold onto one another in times of good and bad and then they even tend to plan their future together. The person who is serious about their relation takes it as a reality and makes every possible means to keep the fire burning. However, promises fades, love fades, people are changed and hearts are broken. Consequently, those who were serious about their relationship gets into poorest situation, the pain they go through will be no less than the divorcee will. The only thing different is the title they get, one will be called “divorce” and the other is called “break-up” which in its meaning means the same.
There is no right for a person to ruin others happiness. If you are not ready to take the responsibility and commit yourself into relationship, you should not simply take the chance and fool around because at the end of the day there are people who are serious about their relationship and ultimately they are the one who gets hurt and suffers from so called ‘love sick’. One should not drag oneself if one is not serious. A relationship is a promise to love one another, to hold onto one another for lifetime; it is the same promise that is made during marriage where they promise to be more than just loyal and faithful, where they promises to love each other and promises to live their lives together for rest of the life.
If it was just to know each other, or understand, one another for that matter then restrict to dating. You can go for dating if you really want to know or understand the other person rather than purporting to be in love and making fake promises. Marriage is indeed also a relationship but with a higher title. Only if all relationships are given the entitlement of Marriage…